So much for online forum members
So, the other day I see a post in an online reptile forum I belong to. It says something about a genetics chart. I'm always interested in that stuff, so I clicked on it to see what I could learn. It turned out to be something I've seen before (actually from the website I moderate forums on), so I commented "Haha - I know where you got that!" I was just joking around with the guy, as in "Hey, I've seen that before *wink*". I also commented to some other people who informed the poster that the chart & info were way over their heads "Sorry guys, I've read entire books on the subject and that info is just the beginning!"
Well, the owner/administrator of the site posted a rather chiding post, which I considered responding to while working over the weekend. See, I know the guy - he used to belong to the forums I moderate in (he's a former moderator). I think he got fed up with the lack of activity there & started his own, and has a bit of a club situation going on. Well, when forum #1 slacked off, I joined forum #2, and enjoyed helping people out, as well as hob-nobbing with a lot of the former F1 members. I never expected to be part of the clique, but it was nice to talk with people I know there and see how their pets were doing and also have my questions answered (I'll be the first to admit I don't know it all).
Then, the guy who started the thread posted "Haha, I already said where I got it". Sure enough, at the end he had posted a location (though it wasn't where the breakdown of simple heredity originated). Once I recognized it, I had scrolled down & missed that part.
Then I noticed I had a private message from the same guy - it was a little nasty, telling me how he thought I was a nice guy, but I was only trying to "one up" him. There was more, but it doesn't bear repeating.
I did want to "tear him a new one", but refrained, instead telling him he was free to think whatever he chose about me, but his opinion of me was not grounded in fact - that I had no intention of seeming antagonistic.
I then reworded my original post, and also attempted to clear up the obvious misconceptions in a followup post.
The owner followed that with a reply, thanking me for clearing that up, and admitting it was easy to misjudge someone from online postings. He agreed with my comments, but it was all too wishy-washy for me to take it frankly & seriously.
The other guy pm'ed me again, saying he did think it was strange that I posted such a comment, since I'm not like that online, and then the real reason for the hubbub became known - another member of F1 (now the VP, caretaker, and one of the administrators) had posted a similar comment that had been deleted by an F2 moderator (obviously it was argumentative - the guy is known for such typed comments). The fellow also pm'ed that he hoped this would not come between us, as he thought I had a lot of insight & helpful advice in the forums, and he enjoyed learning from my comments.
He also pm'ed me in the F1 forums, asking me to check my messages in F2. I replied that I had received his message, and thanked him.
After a lot of thought today, however, I have modified my preferences on F2, logged off, and do not plan to revisit any time soon (or at all).
I am much too busy to be dealing with hot-heads who jump to erroneous & atypical judgements of my character and intent. I am stressed enough without putting myself at the mercy of people who, for some time I have felt, have resented or at least been skeptical of my presence in F2, considering my position in F1.
I'll admit I should have chosen my words more carefully, but it was such a huge leap from ALL my previous posts to assume that I was being accusational & argumentative.
*sigh* So much for belonging.
listening to...
Shawn Colvin - Round of Blues
Leigh Nash - Just A Little
....................................................................................
On A Lighter Note
Following that drama, I drowned my sorrows in LOLcatz (and other LOLcritterz)
Here are a few that did me good...
Trying to smile (on the inside, if not the outside) - so I'm...
listening to...
Plain White Tee's - Hey There Delilah
Well, the owner/administrator of the site posted a rather chiding post, which I considered responding to while working over the weekend. See, I know the guy - he used to belong to the forums I moderate in (he's a former moderator). I think he got fed up with the lack of activity there & started his own, and has a bit of a club situation going on. Well, when forum #1 slacked off, I joined forum #2, and enjoyed helping people out, as well as hob-nobbing with a lot of the former F1 members. I never expected to be part of the clique, but it was nice to talk with people I know there and see how their pets were doing and also have my questions answered (I'll be the first to admit I don't know it all).
Then, the guy who started the thread posted "Haha, I already said where I got it". Sure enough, at the end he had posted a location (though it wasn't where the breakdown of simple heredity originated). Once I recognized it, I had scrolled down & missed that part.
Then I noticed I had a private message from the same guy - it was a little nasty, telling me how he thought I was a nice guy, but I was only trying to "one up" him. There was more, but it doesn't bear repeating.
I did want to "tear him a new one", but refrained, instead telling him he was free to think whatever he chose about me, but his opinion of me was not grounded in fact - that I had no intention of seeming antagonistic.
I then reworded my original post, and also attempted to clear up the obvious misconceptions in a followup post.
The owner followed that with a reply, thanking me for clearing that up, and admitting it was easy to misjudge someone from online postings. He agreed with my comments, but it was all too wishy-washy for me to take it frankly & seriously.
The other guy pm'ed me again, saying he did think it was strange that I posted such a comment, since I'm not like that online, and then the real reason for the hubbub became known - another member of F1 (now the VP, caretaker, and one of the administrators) had posted a similar comment that had been deleted by an F2 moderator (obviously it was argumentative - the guy is known for such typed comments). The fellow also pm'ed that he hoped this would not come between us, as he thought I had a lot of insight & helpful advice in the forums, and he enjoyed learning from my comments.
He also pm'ed me in the F1 forums, asking me to check my messages in F2. I replied that I had received his message, and thanked him.
After a lot of thought today, however, I have modified my preferences on F2, logged off, and do not plan to revisit any time soon (or at all).
I am much too busy to be dealing with hot-heads who jump to erroneous & atypical judgements of my character and intent. I am stressed enough without putting myself at the mercy of people who, for some time I have felt, have resented or at least been skeptical of my presence in F2, considering my position in F1.
I'll admit I should have chosen my words more carefully, but it was such a huge leap from ALL my previous posts to assume that I was being accusational & argumentative.
*sigh* So much for belonging.
listening to...
Shawn Colvin - Round of Blues
Leigh Nash - Just A Little
....................................................................................
On A Lighter Note
Following that drama, I drowned my sorrows in LOLcatz (and other LOLcritterz)
Here are a few that did me good...
Trying to smile (on the inside, if not the outside) - so I'm...
listening to...
Plain White Tee's - Hey There Delilah
posted by elye tirvare | 6:16 PM
3 Comments:
hey, the pictures are waaaaayyy cute! how have you been? I'd probably use those images sometime to cheer ppl up! thanks!
oh by the way, it's a good thing you clarify what you've written... words do get misunderstood somewhat. You've done your part to make sure you were not misunderstood, the rest... Is up to the reader :)
Thanks for the encouragement - I only wish there was some way to ensure that my words would be understood (it really can be frustrating at times :( ).
p.s., I hope I didn't waste too much of your valuable time with all those pics :) That 'site is addicting! :D
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